Mothers, Fathers, Aunts and Uncles, Cousins and best friends, it seems everyone has an idea about how you should be a parent. While advice from other parents can be useful, it’s a lot easier to digest when you’re not being commanded to act! Read below for some advice from parents who’ve been there, but aren’t telling you what to do.
Try to make sure that you never force a child to eat. If it is mealtime and they simply refuse, accept that and offer up nutritious foods when they do become hungry. If a child is truly hungry, he will eat what you put in front of him.
In order to be a good parent, you must not watch every single thing that your child does. This will smother them and only push them further away. If you give them some freedom, they will in turn put more truth into how they are feeling and how they are living their life. This way, the children are less likely to rebel.
A great parenting tip is to not always let your child get what they want. If you let your child get what they want all the time, they’ll go through life thinking they’ll never have to hear the word “no”. Be reasonable with your child and tell them “no” when you need to.
A great tip to help you with parenting is to get to know the kids your child is hanging out with. Though who your child hangs out with is ultimately his or her decision, you’d like to know if their friends are using drugs or if they participate in some kind of illegal activities.
A great parenting tip is to not be so transparent when you’re angry or stressed out. When your child sees you angry or stressed out, they’ll start feeling anxious themselves, and this can lead to serious emotion problems in the future. Always try to remain calm around your children.
To encourage breastfeeding in an infant, offer your child plenty of skin to skin contact. Skin to skin contact makes a young infant feel content. It also allows them to smell Mom’s milk and so, want to breastfeed more. The feeling of bonding and closeness that skin to skin contact facilitates is also great for Mom, as it reduces stress.
It is important with children to have patience. Sometimes it will take more than once to get an idea or a rule through to them but be patient and persistent. If you lose your cool so will they! Through patience and persistence you can teach them right from wrong, and how to remain level headed.
For children that suffer from ADHD or behavioral conditions, an important thing a parent can do is keep them busy. Children with these issues have a lot of energy and by not keeping them occupied, they are likely to act out in undesirable way. Try to take them to the park for one hour a day or let them ride their bike for a half an hour a day.
Use a pump or hand express milk if you are engorged and the baby is not ready to eat when breastfeeding. There are few things more painful to a new mother than having produced too much milk and not having a way to release it. Our bodies gradually start to produce only what is needed for the baby but it takes a little while to regulate. By expressing some of the milk you can reduce the pain until baby’s next meal.
Shampooing can be a trying experience for parents. You can make this fun by pretending you are a hairdresser and your child is your customer. By making this into a game, your child will not consider washing their hair an unpleasant experience. Avoid to get shampoo in your child’s eyes.
Consider teaching a young toddler or older infant signing. Even if you don’t use special “baby sign”, toddlers will have an easier time communicating with their hands than with their words. This is an especially useful technique if you have a toddler with a language delay, as it provides them with a channel for communication.
Kids by nature want to be independent, giving them tasks to preform while you clean around the house can help them gain confidence. If you are unloading the dishwasher, let your little one hand you the spoons. If you are folding the laundry, give your little one a pile of socks to sort out. The tasks will help them feel as though they are being independent, all while giving you a hand.
One of the most important things you can do for your children is to control your own stress by taking time to care for yourself. Parents who take time to recharge can actually have more energy to care for their children than those who don’t. It will help you stay calmer and be there for your children.
If your child comes and asks you a question about something and you do not know what the answer is you should be completely honest about that. Making up something is not going to solve the issue, so it is best for you to say you do not know and offer to help them find the answer.
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs there is. You will want to remain firm with your children, but it is just as important to be fair, honest and, most importantly, consistent. Once you have a good handle on these concepts, then you have a good foundation for effective parenting techniques.
If you are an adoptive parent, be prepared to answer questions when your child is old enough to know they are adopted. Adopted children are curious about where they came from and sooner or later, they are going to want answers, which they will turn to you for. Do not lie to them about their biological family; it will only make them hold resentment toward you if they find out the truth.
You should take the advice above, and the advice from Aunt Mildred, and merge it all into a parenting encyclopedia in your mind. It’s great to look at situations others have dealt with to see what you can learn from them, and that will make you a much better parent just for caring enough to want to learn!